Today, one of my friends from Linkedin reported that his son Sam had passed overnight in his sleep. Most of us know how lost we would be, as parents, if we were to lose one of our children, especially unexpectedly. We could imagine what a loss and a devastation that could be. However, our family has actually lost a son unexpectedly. You passed in an instant almost seven years ago, and although I recognize the shock, the loss and the grief, I am short of any real wisdom.
What can I say to his father Craig ? I could tell him that Heaven is real and that Sam is safe with God and is free from the limits our bodies and brains place upon our far more perfect souls. I could tell him that I have heard from you, and my Dad in dream, and that you have provided factual information in advance of our hearing it later from others here on Earth. I could tell him that at first, when the pain is so new, that the memories of all that you and your child have shared, are locked away in your mind and your heart for safekeeping. Eventually, each of those memories come back one by one, almost in technicolor. The moments of your hugs and things you said are now some of the very best memories of my own life here on Earth. I want to tell him not to evaporate. I want to tell him that it's worth continuing to live and that there is good left in his life. Sam will be there when it is time for him to leave this life.
Daniel, if it's possible for you to welcome Sam, I would appreciate it. I remember you, and think of you every day here on Earth. I love you wider than the oceans and deeper than the seas, and I believe you have always known that.
May God bless Craig and his family, Sam, you and my Dad.